How to Overcome Loneliness in Retirement - Featuring Sharon Rolph

Sharon Rolph is going to show her audience how to find happiness, contentment, and fulfillment in retirement. Sharon is a retirement longevity coach who helps retiring boomers find a place to fit in, to matter and to make a difference. Sharon understands feeling invisible and uses her Essence statement to remind herself who she is on the inside.

Do you ever feel like you're chasing happiness, but you just can't seem to catch it? You're not alone. So many of us have been told that in order to be happy, we need to do X, Y, and Z. But what if that doesn't

Sharon Rolph is a behavioral science master's degree and years of facilitating empowerment once she retired from Boeing in 2016 into being a retirement longevity coach. She loves to empower boomers to find a place to fit in, to matter and to make a difference. Retiring boomers hire Sharon when they're struggling with boredom, confusion and aimlessness. Sharon understands feeling invisible. Now she serves as professionals in defining their essence to fall in love with themselves by understanding their uniqueness. Sharon struggled with feeling invisible her entire life, but she found her purpose in helping others find their potential. Sharon's coaching program helps people find their purpose and define their essence. Through her program, Sharon has helped people understand their uniqueness and fall in love with themselves.

Here are the steps you need to follow to also get Happiness, contentment, and fulfillment.:

1. Understand your uniqueness and use it to empower yourself.

2. Change your mindset from one of scarcity to one of abundance.

3. When you reframe your challenges as opportunities, you open yourself up to new possibilities.

. Understand your uniqueness and use it to empower yourself.

In order to understand your uniqueness and use it to empower yourself, you first need to take some time to reflect on your life experiences, both good and bad. Think about what has made you who you are today and what you are passionate about. Once you have a good understanding of your own personal history and what is important to you, you can start to develop a clear sense of your own unique talents and abilities. Use these to your advantage by setting goals and taking action steps that will help you achieve your dreams. Remember, you are the only one who can create your own happiness, so focus on what makes you happy and don't let anyone or anything hold you back.

It is also important to understand that your uniqueness is not just about your talents and abilities, but also about your personality and who you are as a person. Accepting yourself for who you are is an important step in using your uniqueness to empower yourself. Once you have done this, you can start to build on your strengths and work to improve upon your weaknesses. No one is perfect, but by striving to be the best version of yourself, you can achieve great things. So, embrace your uniqueness and use it to your advantage. Be proud of who you are and what you have to offer the world. Let your light shine bright and never give up on your dreams. You have the power to create your own destiny, so go out and make it happen.

. Change your mindset from one of scarcity to one of abundance.

In order to change your mindset from one of scarcity to one of abundance, you must first identify the areas of your life where you feel scarcity. Once you have identified these areas, you must then begin to change your thinking around them. For example, if you feel like you never have enough money, begin to focus on all the abundance in your life, such as your health, your relationships, your talents and skills, etc. This will begin to shift your thinking and help you see that there is more than enough in your life. It may also be helpful to meditate on abundance or visualize yourself surrounded by abundance in all areas of your life.

When you focus on the abundance in your life, it will help you to see that there is more than enough. This will begin to shift your thinking and help you feel more abundant in all areas of your life. It may also be helpful to meditate on abundance or visualize yourself surrounded by abundance in all areas of your life. This will help to increase your overall feeling of abundance. It is important to remember that when you focus on the abundance in your life, it does not mean that you will never experience scarcity again. However, it does mean that you will be able to see the abundance even in the midst of scarcity. This will help you to feel more abundant overall and will help you to cope with difficult times more easily.

. When you reframe your challenges as opportunities, you open yourself up to new possibilities.

When you reframe your challenges as opportunities, you open yourself up to new possibilities. This can be a difficult task, but it is important to remember that every challenge is an opportunity to learn and grow. By looking at challenges as opportunities, you can start to see the potential in every situation and find new ways to move forward.

When you reframe your challenges as opportunities, you open yourself up to new possibilities. This can be a difficult task, but it is important to remember that every challenge is an opportunity to learn and grow. By looking at challenges as opportunities, you can start to see the potential in every situation and find new ways to move forward. One way to start looking at challenges as opportunities is to think about what you can learn from the situation. Every challenge is an opportunity to learn something new, so take some time to reflect on what you can learn from the situation. You may also want to think about how the challenge can help you grow as a person. Every challenge is an opportunity to grow and learn, so use it as a chance to improve yourself. Another way to look at challenges as opportunities is to think about how you can use the situation to your advantage. Every challenge has the potential to be a positive experience if you approach it in the right way. Look for

No matter what life throws your way, remember that you have the power to create your own happiness. Define your essence and use your unique talents and abilities to achieve your goals. When you see challenges as opportunities, you open yourself up to new possibilities.

I’d love to hear how you apply to get Happiness, contentment, and fulfillment.. Leave me a comment on how it went for you or drop any questions you want me to answer!

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Hello and welcome to a special edition of Kim Talks Resilience. It is special because it's Friday here. We don't typically jump live on Fridays. We do plan on doing this regularly on Friday starting this fall. However, we've had some tech issues going back and forth, and now Canada is in the midst of another round of tech issues. So I'm super excited that we were able to even log on today coming from Canada. And hopefully Rogers gets all that straightened out. But when we're talking about science and we're talking about making things happen and getting things done, I couldn't think of a better gal to talk to today. And this is a gal that has just such a great grasp on being positive and getting stuff done, finding the answers and creating the solutions. So, real quick, before we dive into today's show, I do ask everybody, please, pretty please jump over to Queenofresilience Shop. This is our shop associated to this program. We have great T Shirts and quote bags, everything from motherhouse floors, get things done, to Queens of Resilience. Just owning your space within this world. Again. That is Queenofresilience Shop. And we'll talk to you soon on what you got there. So real quick, today's guest Sharon Ross. And like I said, this is the second time we've attempted to do this. And we even got our times mixed up today because I made a mistake talking to my assistant. But Sharon is a trooper and she's just going to bring her a game no matter when we can get the game started. Sharon transitioned her behavioral science master's degree and years of facilitating empowerment once she retired from Boeing in 2016 into being a retirement longevity coach. She loves to empower boomers to find a place to fit in, to matter and to make a difference. Retiring boomers hire Sharon when they're struggling with boredom, confusion and aimlessness. Sharon understands feeling invisible. Now she serves as professionals in defining their essence to fall in love with themselves by understanding their uniqueness. She's like a lifesaver for discovering their heaven on earth joy. Her call to courage, three tips to awaken and ignite your inner spark is her free [email protected] And we're going to get that a little bit later. Let's all welcome Sharon into the studio. Good morning, Sharon. How are you?

Crazy.

This is worse than like, going through La traffic.

I'm thinking, oh, goodness, it's good to be here. Friday is a good day and the weather looks like it's going to be pretty good today, too.

You know, it looks amazing. We've been raining for literally nearly a week. And actually rain is an upgrade from snow in Calgary. And today it's sunny and gorgeous. And we have our 3rd, 100th and fourth Stampede parade going today. Kevin Cost is a nurse in town. I know. And you know what last year was? I think it was last year, therefore, was the first year we had not had a Stampede parade or stampede. I think it was last year. It's nice that the sun is shining, and I'm glad that we both have sun today. So you know what, Sheriff, the first thing I like to do is I really like to get a bit of that preframe. Who is Sharon? Because we're going to dive into your what and why and all these other things. But in order for people to get a real grasp on why what you're doing is and why it's so important, I think we need to know a little bit about who you are. Okay?

Yeah. Thank you. Kim. I was middle of five, so that line you read about feeling invisible started from my family, because middle kids tend to get ignored. For me, being invisible or ignored was kind of a strategy because there had been several years of sexual abuse on our home. And I kept saying, thank heaven he keeps his hands off me. But there was that little girl inside that wants and needs that affirmation from the men in her life. But as a teenager, my real big wife started with potential. I kept wondering, well, how do I know what my potential is, you know, as a teenager and what life's all about? And I even had a couple of dreams as a four or five year old. I want to see what life is about. Well, during my career, I actually often was encouraging people and helping them bring out their potential, and especially on resumes, we often when we're trying to write a resume, we're too close to our skin to be able to be objectively describing us. So it does help to have someone else help you with that, and that got pretty good results, potential. I became a behavioral scientist at Boeing. My last job was helping people take problem solving down to the lowest level. Well, a lot of people at bowling would rather those days anyway, would rather blame somebody than to take ownership of their problems or they just solve it themselves and nobody knew about it, I think was another stance that was a little more healthy. So empowering people to be engaged and give their best is something I just love to do. And even in retirement, when you don't have a boss saying, oh, Sharon, you got to get this done today, I started bouncing off the wall, how do I know if my days are productive? And that's when I used my essence statement to remind me who I am on the inside. And it started feeling like every day was right, because I lived by what mattered to me and lived from what's in my heart to do.

So there's a lot to unpack there, and I think this goes into we're going to start moving into what you do. But what I find fascinating here is that a lot of what you're doing now is actually somewhat of a newer phenomenon. It's something that we've seen evolve over the last ten years or so. And the reality when you talked about high school, right? I mean, for me, that was like seventy's and eighty's and the thought process and the mindset and everything, we're completely different, and we're going through such a huge shift. First of all, I have to commend you because it's hard to if you're over a certain age or you've grown up in a certain set of technology or anything to do this huge transition that you're doing, you're on a leading front that women half your age are not embracing. So let's go down through what you're doing. When we talk about what you're doing, let's talk about what is the mindset, psychology and product, but also how you're approaching that through today's mediums and technologies. This is really fascinating.

Well, on a weekly basis, I am doing an instagram posting of Queen of Courage.

Queen of Courage. I love my queens.

So my book is called Fresh Courage, and a series of podcasts I did a couple of years ago was Fresh Courage in Retirement. So I'm pretty lucky in that I look ten or 15 years younger than I really am. I'm 74, so I brag about it, but I never refer to myself as old if you think you're old. And I've been fortunate that I don't have wrinkles. But some of that is related to taking my vitamins, to being single and never married in my heart. And one of my favorite things that I might share here a little bit later is worry is a misuse of imagination. So when it comes to reframing where I'm at and what I'm doing, I've always been a pretty positive person. Well, in fact, I was counting up the other day, when was it? I remember stomping my foot and saying, I refuse to live my life based on fear. And it was when I had just moved to Tampa, Florida, from Washington State all the way across the country. My job had transferred me, and somehow I was reading in the first chapter of Joshua, it says like four or five times, do not be afraid, be of good courage, be of great courage. And I just kept handling that. That was 30 years ago, so this is 30 years of not worrying. So that's one reframe of resilience that helped me a lot. When I left Washington, I had a goodbye party kind of thing, and somebody was going around asking everybody, with what word of wisdom would you give Sharon as she's leaving all her known friends? And one of them said, well, give yourself, allow yourself at least six months to a year to find new friends. And I thought I'm positive. Yeah, I needed that a couple of times. This is just temporary. You're going through something that's new. And besides, Kim, you might know the fact that when you're going through change, you've been in one mode and then change actually you actually get worse before you get better. So in this low point, you have to stick with it because it's going to get better. If you're implementing a new system or a new product at work, you have to accept the fact that confusion is part of the learning process and the getting to the new future you want.

Well, and that is we see that actually in nature itself, it is darkest before the dawn. So this is designed to test your metal to see if you will go next level. You're very right on that.

Yeah, I think I needed to hear that today, too.

Yeah. What are those days, eh?

Well, yeah, in fact, I was in a class yesterday where they talked about making what you do well. Yeah, I'm helping you move from mundane to marvelous, but how does that look? Tangible? And as the class was going on, I thought, you know, it's the difference of coming home at the end of the day and feeling so tired, but so heartwarmed because you helped somebody that made such a difference. It's like you're exhausted physically, but emotionally you're just reveling in the good that you did that day.

Yeah, absolutely. So walk us through what you do within your program.

Well, what I do is I will help anybody find their purpose. And part of my process is asking some questions about what do you love to do? What things have supported you in your personality to get you where you are? But that's kind of a surface, like writing a resume somewhat. But the nugget that is so valuable to me and really made a difference in my heart anyway, was writing my Essence statement. So my Essence statement starts with I am a precious jewel of wisdom. I am colorful, a collaborator, motivator and learner and so on. So I can use that Essence statement to take me anywhere I want to go because it's on the inside of me. Purpose is kind of what you do. Yes, there could be internal or external value to it, but Essence is who I know myself to be the real self. Nobody asks us that. When we developed this in our coaching class, we had to stand in a circle after it was all done and read our Essence statement to each other. What a precious moment that was. Because nobody had ever asked me to reveal my soul or my spirit. Several of us were kind of moved to tears because it was such a dynamic moment. That's what I really want for people to know this is how I was made, this is kind of my DNA or inner spark. And nobody has to manufacture that because it's inside.

Exactly. It was interesting because you talked about this and I think there's a lot of people, especially coming through COVID and we're seeing a lot of people in their forty s and fifty s. Sixty s, seventy s. And it is fascinating a couple of things that are happening in the world. There's a lot of different dicomites going on due to economy, due to world mental health, due to all these different things. And we're in our second wave of resignations for women over 45 and 50. So they resigned from the corporate job. They worked to try and do something on their own. They went back to a corporate job, or they went from a corporate to a corporate. And they're resigning again because they're asking these really deep questions of what is my definition of happiness? What is happiness to me if I were to check out tomorrow? Have I served my life purpose? And I think these are questions that a lot of people avoid, right? A lot of people avoid these questions. I had somebody ask me this other day because he asked if he says that he asked a lot of people, your life purpose, do you feel that you served your life purpose or what is your life purpose? And he assumed, he assumed that my life purpose, I would say, would be to build this big business or to do this or that. And yet my life purpose was simply to like you. I had a very similar childhood. I was not avoided. And my life purpose was to ensure that that generational legacy was dismantled. And I'm very proud that my sisters and I have all been able to accomplish this. And trust me, our kids are going to need counseling for lots of other things, but not that. The reality is, I feel that my purpose on this earth to reset this generational issue into moving this next generation in a more positive fashion. I feel that I've done the right thing. And so when he said this was like, yeah, I'm good. I think I could I could check out. I've been very happy in my life. I've impacted a lot of people's worlds. I've helped a lot of people create personal wealth for their real estate investments. I've been able to share my story. I've written books. I've encouraged other women to go and do things. Yeah, I think I was really surprised by that, because a lot of people don't put time and energy into answering those questions. What is my goal or my legacy and how do I define happiness? And I love the fact that your tackling is when a lot of people, when you get over 60, a lot of people just give up. They think that, well, life has passed me by. I can't do this. It's done well.

Kim I think we get so busy paying for the roof over our cars and our education and just going through life, who talks about happiness? I felt like that when I first decided that retirement was the niche I wanted to speak to. People don't know where their happiness is. And so I actually got a good lesson from my sister. She lives over in the farming area, kind of like Calgary in the middle of Washington State. And from her window on a good day, she can see a little bit of mountaineering 200 miles away. And she started looking at getting property over there in the green belt and with the trees in the water. Now she has just trees at her property, but I want trees and water.

Okay, I'm kind of with you on that.

Yeah. So they go over there every couple of weeks. I spent the weekend there. And that's her vacation time, that's her chilling time. So I was shocked that she knew what made her happy and did something about it, and she invested in it. And they've been improving the land quite extensively. So I realized that a lot of people don't need to think about happiness, but that's what keeps us alive, really, when we're bored down with all that fear and isolation. Happiness is what gets you out of bed in the morning, actually.

Well, and we as human beings are programmed by fear, intrinsically. This is where our biology, our DNA caveman. Fear of fire, I'm going to survive. Fear of dark, I need shelter, safety. Exactly. And I think that as we get older, our wherewithal because, you know what? The body does have breakdowns and things like that. I was looking at this and I was trying to figure out why so many older people seem to be in a negative space. And it was fascinating. It was a conversation with a woman who's not quite 50 yet, and she's up for an award in Australia. Yes, urologist specialist. She does surgeries, but she picked that profession as a surgeon because she could sit down and do the surgeries, because she was born with hip dysplasia, and so she was missing a piece of her hip. So she had lived in constant pain her entire life, and she just got a brand new state of the art hip a few years ago and she said and now she's writing books and she's doing all this. She had no idea how much space in her mind, in her brain pain took. So let's talk about that really quickly because I do know, as I'm 53, I have broken both ankles. I do have chronic pain in my left ankle. So there are things and my friends are all getting older. And then my mom, I watch my mom. When you're dealing with fighting with your biology, how do we embrace what you're teaching?

Well, another thing I bring up, I've never been in the hospital a day. I've never had cancer, never had diabetes. So, yes, I do have sometimes pain, but I guess I've always taken the stance, Kim, that I'm in charge of my health and I don't go to the doctor for everything because, hey, things heal on their own. My body is self healing. But yeah, a couple of weeks ago, I was driving, like, two or three days in a row, and my right knee, where the gas cost is, did hurt that time. And so I just say, oh, well, I don't dwell on it, because it does go away. But things like eating sugar and flour are things that I've started saying, okay, that makes my body hurt. I think I'd rather have pain free than have to deal with exchanging the pleasure of sugar and flour for a pain free body.

Yeah, the inflammation that you get, a lot of people, especially as we get older, those certain things we can't tolerate. Absolutely.

Well, another thing I want to say is I've got a chair sitting right here. And several times, I imagine in my mind and this is a philosophy, I guess, that I have, that if the best I could do is sit 24 hours a day in a chair and I couldn't move, couldn't be mobile, I would still be just as much loved by God sitting in a chair. And so when it comes to retirement, people are often in a wheelchair. That does not necessarily limit your purpose. It may sting me a bit and need a little more creativity, but you can still talk on the phone. You can still write letters. You can still crochet or net or whatever. You can still interact with people around you, but you let it be a limitation if you want to. One of my things is you decide what stops you.

Absolutely. I had the honor of knowing a gal about 20 years ago who became a paraplegic. And this is a girl who is an incredible gardener, and she was an incredible mother and loved deeply. And her daughter, who had been riding bikes with her, had actually not survived the head on with the vehicles. And the mother was, sorry, not paraplegic a quadriplegic. So she not only surpassed her time living in that wheelchair, she became a very famous mouth artist. Sick art from her mouth. She actually was commissioned to do artwork for bishops and churches. And so she took what she did with her hands to the garden, because all that knowledge, all that creativity, all those colors were still there. They were in her brain. And her name is Jeannie Gordon. If anybody wants to look up somebody who truly was probably one of the greatest people who walked emerald on this earth, it would be Jeannie. She was an amazing human being, and her artwork was phenomenal. So when you talk about that, it really is in the mind of how you navigate this. Give me three things that when you go into do you go into facilities? Are you contracted by families? Like, how do you find your clients? Most likely?

Well, that's a $64,000 question. Actually, I am now proposing to do a Purpose movement series for senior communities and senior living. So senior communities are typically active places that have 55 and older, where senior living has some sort of assisted living type element included in well, I've come across a lady out of Boston, Anahal, who actually has done purpose equation processes even with dementia patients. So that tells me nothing is impossible. And I love saying that anyway. So I am proposing and would love to talk to executive directors or regional operations directors who can see the value of purpose being refocused. That new thing that we need to learn in our older years is to look at what is my purpose and what am I here to do, because most times we don't leave this Earth until we fulfill our purpose. So doing either bi weekly or monthly purpose calls where we actually discuss and learn and see what is possible. Because being curious again, like a three year old is a really valuable thing when we get older because they only live in the present three year olds. It's only today, now, right now. It's not all this history that we've had that bogs us down. It's just what can we do today? There's actually a lady on my podcast that I did that she did a documentary for a senior living home in West Seattle that purposely built a daycare center next door to a senior living.

Yes, I've heard of that. Brilliant. Brilliant.

When I asked her, at what point, what message did she get out of her experience with that? And it was about today living in the present. That's what the seniors have. That's what three year olds have. And they played together, they sang songs together. They even dealt with, yes, life passes on. And yes, just like plants in your garden die. Well, we die too. And they didn't skirt that. So, yeah, pretty cool.

That is so cool. And that's innovation. That's innovation in the sense that a lot of children don't grow up with their grandparents, and it gives them the opportunity, because if you're not introduced to something or someone, you will fear it, right? And if people have fear of getting older, then they'll put off so many things that they could actually do because they're living in that state of fear. And there are people like that. There's this huge fear. Of course, the cosmetic surgeons would be very disappointed if there was no fear of getting older. So we're going to put that out there. Would you travel to other locations? If somebody wanted you to do a tour of their different centers and do one day workshops, would you be able to do something like that?

Yes, I have started lining up some places around here locally. In fact, Kim, I want to be an international speaker to Boomers, because that is such a huge resource of energy and innovation that needs to be inspired and motivated. And I love being inspired and motivated. So one of my dreams is to travel to New Zealand. So New Zealand kind of invited me down there because I'd love to be paid to travel. But also the whole big issue about there's like 3 trillion hour of time freedom over the next 20 years that boomers could be investing in making our world a better place.

Absolutely. You hit it right there. Right there. And I have a friend that's getting ready to retire. She's just a couple of years older than me, and she's so excited. And I'm looking at her going, I'm just starting a new business. And then after I start that business, I have a plan for when I'm 60. So maybe when I'm 70 we'll talk. But It's funny because I don't view it the same way, but my grandmother lived to 94, and only in her last year did she have any limitations physically of mobility. So she lived independently. So I'm just going to go on the assumption that as long as I live as healthy and as good as my grandma, I'm going to be fine. Right. So let's talk about resilience, because we've talked a lot about who you are, and I think we have a very good understanding of kind of where you've come from and creating that visibility and getting people to embrace their space within this earth versus resign from it and then how you can offer and support. So I do at this point in time want to chat about resilience. I always love to collect stories of resilience. This is my thing. And can you share time in your life that without resilience you would not be sitting here having this conversation with me?

Well, the first time somebody called me resilient was a very good friend of mine, and it was a good biparti for that. Transferred down to Tampa, Florida. And I was shocked that she said that because nobody had ever called me resilient before. Well, I think she knew a little bit about my recovery work from being dealing with all this sexual abuse. But she and I had worked on a convention together and there were several things that she knew about me. So when she called me resilient, I think in some ways I sensed that she wished she had more and therefore she saw it in me, which is one of the clues to what you admire. So she admired my resilience. But I had had a sense for two or three years, I remember being out in my front yard a few times and feeling like I had this sense of being a newborn baby and something new was coming. So in my mindset, I guess I was getting used to it. But to go so far away from Washington state to place there would be maybe a handful of people that had already transferred down there. But when you don't know anybody and you don't have your support community around you, yeah, it takes courage to move in that direction. Since I've been having this sense of something new anyway, I would never have gone to Florida, I would never have moved myself to Texas. I would probably stay in this safe around the support system I had around here. But traveling well, what I realized, Kim, is that it brought out a strength inside of me I never knew I had the challenge of going into work, and I say, okay, when I needed a plumbing fixture back in Seattle, I'd go to Ace Hardware Store. Where do I go? Here. Where do I go to find an insurance agent? Where do I go to find a dentist? There's all these questions that I now had to, oh, I need some help. That's tough to do. I need some help. And I kind of made it a game. Help this orphan here figure out a way through town.

Discovery and curiosity is what keeps us moving forward. That is absolutely a key part to living life to its fullest and aging gracefully, gracefully.

Certainly a different level of maturity.

Absolutely. And there's a lot of people that never move out of their town, never go anywhere, so they never challenge themselves on that. So I think in some ways maybe Covet was a bit like moving out of town because people lost their work environment, they lost their families. There was so much disruption there. So it's going to be really fascinating to watch that unfold over the next few years. Let's talk about books. You've got a book.

I got a book.

Awesome. Fresh courage. Tell me, first of all, what gives you the synopsis of your book?

Well, I use the premise Donald Miller is a writer that I appreciate, and he says there's seven or eight main topics that people want in life, either to save money or save time or be famous or I don't know, that's what the chapters are written around. Okay, so I made these art blocks. Let's see if we can, so there we go. Church Forever. What Makes You Unique. There's something about beauty and words. When they're put together, they go into our brain in a different way. Okay, so here's one. Seniors who socialize are happier. So I love color, I love words of wisdom, and I love sewing. And they all come together in these little blocks. So here's in fact, the one. Church forever. What Makes You unique? I love the colors of purple and green together. Anyway, where was I going with this? Yeah, a fresh person retires. So I include some of the stories from my podcast. One of my favorites is a lady here who is a realtor. She was about 54, and she felt the need to expand her heart. And so she dreamed up innovation, this community service project around the world. She took a year traveling the world, a month in twelve different countries. Elephants. Yeah, there were a couple of magical moments there. So a book that helped me, though, when I first was even after I had gotten my Essence statement, is i. Started reading Martha Beck's book, The Joy Diet. Ten menu items. Start with nothing. Do ten or 15 minutes a day doing nothing on a weekly topic. Yours to do a week with it. And basically nothing leads you to meditation and or prayer or for me, it led me to the still, small voice that's inside of us that will talk to us if we listen. So Fresh Courage, actually, the phrase came from a Hallmark movie. They said when you go on vacation, you often go home with Fresh Courage. Yeah, I noticed that you got more gum. Should get things, tackle things that you had been putting up with for a long time. But when you're on vacation, you're often watching a campfire or watching the ocean or watching kids play. And in that stillness and just observing life, a message comes through that is for you alone, and it hits the target of your heart. So that's what I'm here to do, is remind people what have been some of those messages that have tried to come through to you, that now, once you've got the time and the freedom to do something about because it might in fact be your purpose, so slow.

Down and listen with them. We always hear that from all the great thought leaders, right? Take a little time with yourself. So real quick, where can people find you?

Well, I've got this little sign that I made.

Open up for just a moment. Sharon Rolph. So for anybody who's listening, it's Sharon Rolph. And the book is Fresh Courage in Retirement. And you can find her on all her socials of Queen of Courage. Queen of Courage. Sharon Rolph. That's Rolph.

And I'm like a lifesaver for you discovering your heaven on earth. Joy. I followed a lot of people who have had near death experiences, and when they talk about the beauty, the beauty, the sounds, the fragrances, everything about heaven that just is so overwhelming in such a good way. That's what I want for people when they find their essence and live from there. Because it's so meaningful, because it's what really matters to us.

Perfect. Well, I'll put the word out because international is as close as just coming to Canada. And you can put international on your docket there. Close us out with a quote. Quote that inspires you.

Okay. So the one that has really meant a lot to me over the years is Thomas Wolf. I believe it is. If one has a talent and fails to use it, one has failed. If one has a talent and partially uses it, one has partially failed. If one has a talent and finds somehow to use the whole of it, they have gloriously succeeded and won a satisfaction few people ever know. I want that for you.

Oh, my gosh. I don't know if anybody can see this. I've got goosebumps. Thank you. That is beautiful. First of all, it was beautifully said. It's a great quote, but it was beautifully said. Thank you. All right, folks, that's it for today. Thank you for joining me here at Kim Talks resilience. And if you ever feel that your resiliency is lagging, be sure that you listen in and lean in to our resilient community. And if you don't have your monthly magazine coming to you, and you don't have all the notifications for our livestreams and our podcast launches, you know what? You can just go to resilientgift.com. That's resilientgift.com for totally free. I'm not asking for credit cards. There's no sneaky renewals. Just go ahead, grab your membership into the resilient community, and we're here to support you. Because you know what? We're all in this together. Let's make it happen. Until next time. I'm Kim Hayden and this is Kim Talks resilience.

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